Do you know the difference between a want and a need?
I’m sure you do. We’ve all heard our mom’s voice come out of our own mouth at one point, right?
Like when you correct the kid who just said she neeeeeds the newest iPod or that new video game or to go to the co-ed sleepover? Yeah. Right. Like you need that!
But how often does your mom’s voice talk to you? Hmm.. think about how often you’ve said some version of:
“I need to start my own business because I want to spend more time with my kids.” or “I need my day job and I need to grow my business in the evenings, but I really want to make sure I’m balancing my work and family time.”
These statements may be true. Then again, you might have it all wrong.
Now, back to hearing mom’s voice. Take the sentences above and switch the words “want” and “need”. Go ahead, read them again here with just those two simple words switched around.
“I want to start my own business because I need to spend more time with my kids.” or “I still want my day job and I want to grow my business in the evenings, but I really need to make sure I’m balancing my work and family time.”
How much does that change the meaning? What does it do to your perspective?
Downright evil word play, that is!
Now those sentences wreak of honesty. The need is the end goal…the life you want. The wants are merely means to reach that end…how are you going to fund the life you want. The funding isn’t the goal, its just a vehicle. Yes, you want that vehicle to be in working order and up for the trip. But, if it turns out it isn’t, you can get another vehicle…right? (You can.)
My Analogy (because I love analogies)
If you said you needed a new car because you wanted to drive 1000 miles to visit your grandma, then you’re likely to allow the inability to get a car to keep you from seeing grandma. However, let’s suppose you say you want a new car because you need to see grandma on her birthday. If you can’t get the new car, you’ll consider buying a clunker, taking a bus or getting on a plane. Anything that will take you to grandma on time.
The magical thing is, when you put the need on your family time and the want on the vehicles that will get you there…a true sense of urgency will start to move you forward and a whole new world of options will open up for how you can get there.
Your turn to play
Head on down to the comment area and let me know what you think about all this. What do you need & what do you want? How can this word play help you get there faster?